Start Dating a pleaser

Dating a pleaser

I always thought I was just fickle, and I would grow out of it, but I’ve come to realise it’s more than that.

Then she complains that there are no good men out there.

It’s the definition of a self-fulfilling prophesy if there ever was one.

While I agree that there are a lot of incredible women hobbling down the streets of Moscow in towering heels and tight skirts, I think foreigners are often blinded less by their unearthly beauty and more by the level of dedication Russian women have to looking good.

In the States and a lot of Europe, there simply isn’t a culture of always being ‘on’, aesthetically speaking.

That’s when women call me – when staying safe and busy is no longer enough to mask the wish that you had a man to wrap his warm arms around you at the end of a long day. A pleasure seeker will find love eventually because she’s open to love, she’s making an effort for love, and it’s just a matter of time until she finds it.

Your problem, Bryony, and the problem with any woman who protects her heart by remaining alone, is that you’re letting fear run your life. They know there are happy marriages out there and will do anything in their power to be a part of one. They say “love happens when you least expect it.” They take solace in their independence. And they don’t – because if they did, some man would have the key to their heart and the potential to break it. She may have a few more bumps and bruises along the way – that’s what happens when you’re dating prolifically – but it all pays off in the end when she can sit in her backyard with her husband and kids.

I do agree with EMK that she should be going on lots of dates, all the time.

This will give her a good idea of what’s out there and then when she does meet the right guy (like when I met Jake) she’ll know it and feel confident pulling the trigger.

I don’t want to use him as my guinea pig and ultimately hurt him. And if you actually get your money’s worth with me, you can very well find yourself in love.

Should I force myself into this relationship (surely it can’t work out) but will I ever deal with commitment? What could be more vulnerable than being in love with a man who can hurt you?

Then I met Jake, and we were exclusive immediately, and it’s been 4.5 years.